Pleasure for Vulvas (Audio Script)

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Hi there.

Welcome to “climax For Vulva Owners”, written by sex educator Suzannah Weiss.

Suzannah has spent her career helping people, especially women, learn how to climax and expand their intense abilities.

As a certified sex educator and sex and love coach, she teaches classes such as “climax for Vulva Owners” and “Living Life Orgasmically” and works with people one-on-one to help them overcome sexual blockages and feel more pleasure.

Her insights are based on her training as a sex educator and somatic sexologist as well as the method she developed in her own life to go from never experiencing an climax with a partner to orgasming in every sexual encounter.

This episode is a general overview of climax for all of you out there with vulvas.

Whether you’re an expert at achieving climax or just starting to learn about your body and its relationship to pleasure, this episode is for you.

We’re going to be talking about how to climax, how to make achieving climax easier, how to have more powerful climax, and how to enhance your climax overall.

A couple of things you’re going to need are a small hand mirror and your preferred lube.

Silicon, water-based, coconut oil, whatever you’d like.

If you don’t have a small, compact mirror, then you can use your phone’s camera in selfie view.

So, if you’ve got everything ready, let’s get started.

If not, feel free to pause and take a few moments to get situated.

All good?

Let’s go.

Before we get started with touching, let’s talk basics.

What is an climax?

At its core, an climax is a muscular contraction brought on by reaching your personal peak of sexual arousal.

During the lead-up to an climax blood is flowing to your genitals and tension is increasing throughout your body.

When you reach your peak of sexual arousal, the body releases all of this tension in a serious of pleasurable contractions.

Endorphins, which are chemicals that cause feelings of pleasure, giddiness, and even sleepiness, are released into the bloodstream.

Some people find it more difficult to climax than others, so if you’ve never had an climax or if it’s a rare occurrence for you, just know that you’re not alone.

Things such as stress, using drugs or alcohol, or a lack of knowledge about your body’s personal pleasure points can all contribute to difficulty achieving climax.

With all that being said, climax are not a necessary part of sexual satisfaction and fulfillment.

Penetrative sex and clitoral stimulation produce pleasure despite if you reach climax or not.

A lack of climax does not negate pleasure.

The easiest way to achieve better climax more often requires a bit of experimenting.

This exercise today is going to include a deep dive exploration into your vulva in order to find the movements and locations you enjoy best.

The more you know about what makes you feel good, the easier it will be to approach and achieve climax.

So, in order to understand our anatomy and the role it plays in pleasure, we need to take a closer look and get well-acquainted with the vulva.

The vulva, which encompasses all of your external body, contains a few different body parts.

I’m going to walk you through what each structure is and its role in sexual arousal and climax.

Open up your mirror or your camera and take a look at yourself.

The first thing you’re likely to see is the outer labia.

These are the lips that are visible when you’re standing up—the ones that have pubic hair on them if you don’t remove it.

These can be touched, rubbed, or kissed as part of foreplay.

Some people who are more sensitive like to use a vibrator on their outer labia, without spreading the lips.

This can stimulate the clit indirectly and is a great start for people who find vibrating sex toys to be overwhelming.

If you spread apart the outer lips, you should see another pair of lips.

These are called the inner labia.

These are typically more sensitive than the outer labia and can be stroked with fingers, licked during oral sex, or stimulated with toys.

The inner labia, by the way, sometimes sticks out from beneath the outer lips for some people.

Don’t worry—totally normal.

Inner labia come in all different sizes.

Now, I want you to open up the inner labia slightly.

You’ll see two different holes here, the first one being the vaginal opening at the bottom.

If you haven’t looked at your opening before, you might be surprised by how small it looks.

Arousal and penetration cause this hole to stretch and expand.

Above the vaginal opening, you’ll see another tiny hole.

This is the urethra: the hole you pee out of.

That isn’t its only function, however.

This small area can be stimulated and produce a lot of pleasure for some people, ideally using lube and fingers.

Let’s move up just a little bit further to the area where the inner labia meet at the top.

There, you’ll see a flap of skin known as the clitoral hood.

You may not actually see the clitoris, though.

The hood covers the clitoris at least partially and sometimes fully.

If the clit were constantly exposed, it would probably be a bit… uncomfortable.

If you lift the hood upward with your fingers, you may be able to see the clitoris itself.

It might be barely visible, almost like a tiny bead.

Or, it might be longer and protruding.

Everyone is different.

And that’s okay.

I want you to just look at yourself for a few moments and appreciate yourself and your body for exactly how you look right now.

Every body is beautiful.

Now, the majority of vulva-owners find clitoral stimulation to be the easiest way to climax.

However, everyone’s nerves are placed somewhat differently throughout the body, so not everyone gets off in the same way.

Some people prefer penetration to clitoral stimulation.

Some people’s clitorises are too sensitive to be touched, even over the hood.

Since pleasure is such an individual and subjective thing, we’re going to try a few different forms of touch to see what you enjoy most.

As we go through these touch sessions, I want you to rate each sensation.

Make a mental note as you go along with which touches are your favorite and could potentially lead you to climax.

You might also want to note which touches aren’t that enjoyable or don’t bring you much pleasure.

Okay, so, onto the touching exercise.

The first thing we’re going to do is to take one hand and gently run your fingers up and down your outer labia.

This is the outer part of your vulva, remember, not inside.

Don’t spread your lips open yet… just trail your touch along the outside.

Not everyone is going to find this super arousing.

It will likely just feel like a gentle tease.

How was that?

Take a moment to assess how that felt.

Okay, moving on to the inner labia.

Grab your lube and put a little bit on your finger.

It’s okay if you’re not using lube right now, just make sure to use a light touch and stop if it becomes uncomfortable.

When you’re ready, run your finger up and down your inner labia on each side.

Notice how this feels.

Does stroking one side feel better than the other?

Now, try making a full circle with your finger.

Run it down your right inner labia…

Up your left inner labia…

Now touch above your clitoral hood, without touching your clit…

Then back down and up once again.

Let’s do this a couple more times, a little looser and more relaxed.

Just run your finger in a circle over the whole vulva and notice how it feels.

Down your right inner labia…

Up your left inner labia…

Above your clitoral hood…

And down once again.

Very good.

How did that feel?

Maybe your clitoris wants to be touched?

If so, relish the feeling of wanting that touch, but not having it just yet.

Teasing yourself and engaging in solo foreplay is a great way to achieve climax easier.

Delaying climax will increase the sexual tension building up in your body and lead you to a more powerful climax.

Go ahead and rate stimulation of your inner labia.

Perfect.

Moving on.

Now, let’s experiment with clitoral stimulation, which is what many women require in order to achieve climax.

Put a finger or two on top of your clitoral hood.

Now, move them in slow, clockwise circles.

It should feel like you’re sliding the clitoral hood over the clitoris, rather than moving your finger over the hood itself.

How would you rate this feeling?

Go ahead and take note or mark it down.

Now let’s try reversing the direction of our movements and doing the same thing with counter-clockwise circles.

See if this feels more or less intense than going clockwise.

Now, how would you rate this feeling in comparison with clockwise movements?

It might seem like there’d be little difference, but when it comes to achieving climax, every little detail counts.

Some people need to have very specific conditions in order to achieve intense pleasure.

Alright, let’s switch gears slightly.

I want you to rub the clitoral hood from left to right now, instead of in circles.

Place a finger or two on top of the hood, in the center if possible, and just move it gently from left to right.